Here’s how to protect your relationship

LTPhoto11I know I’ve mentioned this before, but a lot and I mean a lot of emails and questions that I receive are about a failing relationship or marriage. This really saddens me because having a partner to share your life with is so very important and beneficial. I know because I’ve been married for well over 40 years now and truly love my husband Wan Jin. Although we are quite different, we not only love and care deeply for one another, we also respect each other, which is critical to the success of any relationship.

That being said, I do want to remind you of the necessity of developing a greater sensitivity to the energy in your home, particularly in your sleeping area or bedroom – especially if you are having marital or relationship problems. When the life force of the home dominated by vibrant yang energy, the mood of its inhabitants tends to be positive and happy. Over time however, the energy of any home (or bedroom) grows stale and tired. Naturally we don’t want the bedroom energy to be too yang in nature, but we do want to clear any negative chi that is adversely affecting your relationship. In this week’s article I’ve given you 8 ways to do this which I hope will help whatever troubles you are experiencing right now. Even if everything is going along smoothly, I really encourage you to take note of every recommendation in this article today.

As always, wishing you much love and success. Be sure to write me here at info@lilliantoomandala.comhere and let me know how things are going. Always keep a positive frame of mind, no matter how difficult things may be!


8 Ways To Revitalize Your Bedroom Energy
(And Improve Your Love Life)
If you’ve been studying feng shui with me for a while, or if you have read any of my books, you know how important it is to develop a greater sensitivity to the energy of our homes. If the energy has grown stale in your love life or marriage, you will first need to clear the negative energy and revitalize your space. Here are 8 ways you can do this.

1.  Clear Negative Energy From Your Sleeping Space
Give your mattress and pillow a sunbath! At least once a month light fragrant incense and walk around your bed clockwise to remove any lingering negativity. Open the windows if you are able to let in the fresh springtime yang energy.

2. Clear Clutter From Around Your Bed
LTMessyNIghtstandNever place old clothes, books, personal items or memorabilia under your bed. If your bedside table starts piling up with books and other kinds of junk, spend some time each month to sort through and put things back where they belong.

3.  Purify Your Bed Space
LTWaterSaffrionUse saffron water to cleanse the space your bed occupies. Sprinkle the saffron water as you walk three times around the bed in a clockwise direction. Saffron is a very power substance for purifying space. Do this cleansing ritual at least once a month.


4.  Balancing Yin and Yang
When the air is especially dry or polluted, spray the air with water droplets to restore the balance. The yin and yang balance of air in the home exerts tremendous energy on the prevailing mood of family members.

5.  Energize the Southwest with Yellow
LTYellowWallIf you can, paint the SW wall of your bedroom yellow. This part of your bedroom should not be cluttered. Keep this area free of unwanted junk and a least once a week spend a few minutes clearing away whatever has accumulated in your SW.

6.  Clear Negativity By Visualizing Rivers of Light                                                                                 Stand outside your house. Close your eyes and imagine the sun as a throbbing ball of powerful nourishing white energy sending out a river of light from the sky moving slowly and benevolently into your home and bedroom.

7.  Protect Your Relationship
Never have a body of water or fountain to the left of the bedroom door (when you are looking from the inside of the room facing out). Never have two separate mattresses concealed under the sheets. Never have a water fountain in your bedroom. Never have mirrors or TV reflecting your bed.

8.  LTHostile starWatch Out For the Quarrelsome 3 Star
We all know that this nasty star is located in the center of the annual feng shui chart this year so its influence affects all family members. However be sure to check the monthly flying stars on a regular basis (they are available in the Feng Shui World monthly magazine). When the quarrelsome 3 star flies into your bedroom, this is when you can really find yourself at odds with your mate.

Blessings From The Gods

Entering a Chinese home or office you’re sure to find at least one of the Chinese gods of wealth prominently displayed …and although they are not often worshipped in a religious fashion they are important symbols of wealth aspiration. Here are just a few of the most popular that you should be aware of. The presence of the wealth gods in the home creates the energy of wealth.


Probably the most popular are the three star gods, Fuk Luk and Sau , which translated literally means wealth, affluence and longevity and implicit in their presence in your home is protection against premature death (longevity luck) and serious illness, plenty of good fortune & prosperity and of course good relationship luck.


These three gods representing the main aspects of good fortune always stand together. Fu’k , the God of Happiness, is taller than the other two gods and always stands in the center, L’uk , the God of High Rank holds the scepter of authority and stands on the right and Sau, the God of Longevity with his domed head , walking stick and carrying a peach stands on the left.

The dining room is an excellent place to display them so that every time you sit down to eat you and your family receive good chi from them. In fact in my home I actually have two lovely well-crafted sets, which I have specifically placed in certain locations. One set is placed on the sideboard in the dining room facing northeast which is the sitting direction of my home and another set is placed outside facing southeast and overlooking the north pond. So you see I have one set of F’uk, L’uk Sau facing a west group direction and the other set facing an east group direction…so all family members benefit!

So these three deities should definitely have a place in your home if you believe in feng shui… as they signify you personal inner desires and aspirations and grant you protection. F’uk L’uk Sau benefits everyone, even if you are not of Chinese descent, so I urge you to invite them into your home today.


Another well-known wealth god is Tsai Shen Yeh – you can find this god in shrines and temples with a fierce countenance and usually seated on a tiger. The Chinese believe that if you place this god deep in your home but facing your main door that wealth will come into your home – so for example on your living room table but facing the main door.

ltlaughingbuddhaTHE LAUGHING BUDDHA

This fat Buddha is really popular with businesses, especially restaurants…with his huge fat belly (which is supposed to contain much wealth) and happy smiling face. Some believe if you stroke his belly at least once every day you will have good wealth luck and just seeing how happy he is makes you happy too. You might also find the laughing Buddha standing with both his hands outstretched in the air or sitting down in the lotus position surrounded by children.


Kuan K’ung is the God of Protection and God of War and some regard him as the God of Wealth too. He’s believed to be so fierce in nature that evil spirits do not dare enter the house if he is guarding the entrance…and he’s particularly popular as the patron of certain triads, the police and other business groups…and often found at business and restaurant entrances.

This is but a very small sampling of a few of the many popular Chinese gods, and there are many more…in fact many overlap with gods represented in different forms and worshipped in other cultures where different branches of Buddhism are practiced. It’s fascinating to learn more about the backgrounds of each Deity but you’ll have to plan plenty of time for this extended study!


ltpic10Grand Master Lillian Too is undoubtedly the world’s most prolific and popular writer and advocate on living with good feng shui! She has written over 100 books that have been translated into 31 different languages, and over 10 million copies of her books have been sold worldwide.

After graduating with an MBA from Harvard Business School, Lillian went on to pursue a highly successful business career in banking and finance in the 1980’s in Hong Kong. Her business acumen, drive and abundant energy soon led her from the finance world to the world of luxury department stores and boutiques where, through a leveraged buy out, she became Chairman and shareholder of The Dragon Seed Group.

All the while she was guided and taught by her feng shui masters in Hong Kong and China – and she attributes much of her monumental and quick rise to success in Hong Kong directly to them.

Lillian soon decided to retire from active corporate life and return to Malaysia to raise her beautiful daughter, Jennifer, and spend more time with her family. It was at this time she began to devote her energy to writing and furthering her study of feng shui.

She published her first book in Malaysia in 1995 that quickly became a best seller and the rest is history. Today she is Chairman of Wofs.Com, a feng shui franchise and merchandising company run by her daughter, Jennifer Too.

She trains feng shui students and future consultants at her Certified Consulting Institute in Malaysia and is much loved by her readers, associates and students for the way she teaches practical feng shui in a user-friendly way, using ordinary situations and circumstances that interest people and affect their everyday lives.

In November 2009, at the International Feng Shui Convention in Singapore, the well-deserved title of GRAND MASTER OF FENG SHUI was conferred upon Lillian Too. Immediately following this accolade, in early January 2010, she received the prestigious Brand Laureate Personality of The Year Award presented by the Deputy Prime Minister of Malaysia! There seems to be no stopping her popularity and these days!

Lillian believes everyone should know her secrets and learn how to adapt feng shui to modern life… and she warmly welcomes you into her Mandala.

You can learn more about Lillian by visiting her website at

Lillian Too Mandala – North American Office
3840 Blackhawk Rd,
Danville, CA 94506
Toll Free Info and Customer Servce : 1 866 508 8806
Email: Fax: +1 925 736 6177

LTPlantTrain Your Feng Shui Eye

When doing your feng shui for the office, remember that anything sharp is harmful. The same of course applies in your home. Anything sharp needs to be softened, blocked or put out of sight. Anything that flows softly or is curved encourages the energy to slow down, settle and be transformed into friendly chi.

Develop the habit of looking around your personal space including above you to check if you are sitting under exposed overhead beams. Look to both sides as well as behind you for pointed edges of walls, furniture and protruding corners. Train your feng shui eye to recognize that anything straight will cause problems while circular brings good fortune.

LTExperienceDefinitionDon’t worry if you fail. Every time it happens a valuable lesson is imprinted in your mind teaching you what to avoid and what not do wrong the next time. Experience is your ally and it may be an expensive one if you suffer a business loss. You can always learn something from failure.




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